The start of a new school year can be exciting — and stressful — for kids and parents alike. For families with two households, it takes extra coordination to make sure schedules, supplies, and communication run smoothly.
Here are practical tips to help you and your co-parent set your child up for success.
1. Set a Clear School-Year Schedule
Align your custody schedule with the school calendar early. Share important dates like holidays, early-release days, and parent-teacher conferences. A shared digital calendar (Google Calendar, Cozi, or OurFamilyWizard) ensures everyone has the same information.
2. Simplify Homework and Supplies
Avoid “I left it at Mom’s/Dad’s” moments by:
Keeping duplicate basic supplies at both homes.
Using a dedicated bag for items that travel between households.
Checking the next day’s needs before transitions.
Ask teachers about online assignment portals so both parents can track schoolwork.
3. Keep School Staff Informed
Make sure teachers and the school office have updated contact information for both parents. Let them know about custody arrangements that affect pick-ups or attendance. Keep school communications focused on your child, not co-parent conflicts.
4. Agree on Core Routines
Even if your households have different styles, align on basics like:
Bedtimes and wake-up times on school nights.
Screen time rules before homework and bedtime.
Homework expectations (before dinner, after activities, etc.).
Consistency helps kids transition smoothly between homes, but this isn’t work a fight if you can’t agree. Try to find common ground, and if you can’t, respect that each household has their own say.
5. Coordinate Extracurriculars
Share practice and event schedules as soon as you get them. Decide who handles transportation on exchange days and make space for both parents at games or performances.
6. Plan for Expenses
School-year costs can add up quickly. Discuss how you’ll handle:
Back-to-school shopping.
Activity and field trip fees.
Big-ticket items like laptops or uniforms.
Follow any expense-sharing provisions in your parenting plan and keep receipts for reimbursement.
7. Keep Communication Child-Focused
Use neutral, concise language in texts or emails. Avoid discussing disagreements in front of your child. If needed, use co-parenting communication tools like OurFamilyWizard or TalkingParents to keep conversations organized.
8. Support Your Child Emotionally
Check in regularly about how your child is adjusting to school and the two-household routine. Offer reassurance, celebrate milestones, and watch for signs of stress such as changes in grades or behavior.
Bottom line: Back-to-school season is a fresh start — and a chance to strengthen your co-parenting approach. By focusing on consistency, clear communication, and your child’s needs, you can help them thrive no matter which home they’re in.
If you have questions about your parenting plan or need guidance on co-parenting arrangements, DebnamRust’s family law attorneys can help you create solutions that protect your child’s stability and success.